John Y. Brown, III

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Recovering Politician

THEN: Secretary of State (KY), 1996-2004; Candidate for Lieutenant Governor, 2007 NOW: JYB3 Group (Owner) -public affairs consulting firm; Miller Wells law firm (Of counsel) Full Biography: link

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Musings from 20,000 Feet

On airplane Tarmac about to take off. And for a moment was so preoccjpied I couldn’t recall where I was going. And for those few seconds, it was exciting. Anything was possible…

 

I propose a “Big and Tall” airline for non-anorexics people over 5 ft tall…

 

I support TSA security measures to combat terrorist threats. And I applaud airlines role in discouraging planes for terrorist purposes by offering cramped seating, delays, and poor service. You are patriots!…

 

On a plane flight today I noticed the woman next to me doing needlepoint the entire flight. She was an older lady but her hands moved like a precise and steady machine repeating stitch after stitch after stitch. I watched with almost hypnotized interest…it had a calming effect and got me to thinking about more profound things that her knitting represented.  In life, we often believe we are the hands doing the frantic and laborious knitting. In fact, I believe we are more like the design waiting for the Divine Knitter to use us in His pattern as we patiently discover how can be most useful to the world.

At least, that’s my hope…

 

Traveling again today and feel compelled to share TSA humorous interaction of the day. Got selected for a pat down. Yes! That’s right! Me….who never wins anything.
A large male official patted me down and told me to “move ahead” -all clear. A female official came up next with a wand. I whispered, “I’m not sure he really had his heart into it. You may want to do a once over on me to make sure.” She laughed!! Yay!!

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Tough Guys

“Wassup esse, Juan Brown?”
I’ve wondered what it would feel like to hear that sentence said to me by one of my friends, assuming he was a Hispanic tough guy who was from the streets of East LA.
And I admit, there’s a good chance I’ll never hear it since I don’t live in East LA.
But I can be dangerous. I really can be.
Not like Ving Rhames “going medieval” dangerous….but dangerous in my own way…. I don’t carry a gun or anything like that, for example. But I do keep pepper spray in my glove compartment that my mother bought me years ago. And I still have it. And could conceivably use it under the right circumstances.
We all have a dark side–and a breaking point— that could cause us to break the law to make a point because it was the right thing to do and it was up to us to do it.
That’s right, Friendo.
A personal example came up today when I was pushed to the limits of exasperation and decided to take the law into my own hands. I was at a convenience station filing up my car with unleaded and went inside to get my usual, a small coffee with lots of cream and sugar and a cinnamon roll.  I took my place in line behind a large and tough looking man who seemed a lot hungrier and frankly more dangerous than me. So there were two of us. Together. The woman with the cashier was asking for directions and buying lottery tickets. And was taking f-o-r-e-v-e-r (a really, really long time) to complete her purchase.
My friend in front of me looked at me twice and rolled his eyes in frustration. He was confused and frustrated. But I wasn’t. I knew what to do. I waited until the lady at the cash register caught my eye and I slowly raised the cinnamon roll to my mouth and took a small bite of it. Before I had paid for it! Sending the message, “We’re in a hurry back here and we’re not fooling around.”
And then I took a second bite. She wasn’t looking the second time. I just had been surprised at how fresh and delicious the cinnamon roll was the first bite. But I wasn’t finished toying with her yet. We continued to wait and this time I lifted my cup and took a slow pull off my small coffee as if to say, “I have about ….umm….I’m…please hurry. Please. I’m…I really hate lines.”
Another minute past and the sales lady looked at me once more, and I went a place I didn’t think I was capable. I took a large symbolic bite that left less than half the cinnamon roll.
And I didn’t flinch.
I was feeling that any second I might hear the words, “Wassup esse, Juan Brown.”
But instead the sales clerk smiled at someone behind me and I turned to see who. It was two police officers sitting at a table drinking coffee. I swallowed hard. I had really gone too far this time and was going to have to apologize once it was my turn to pay. “One small coffee and a cinnamon roll” I cheerfully chirped. “Haha….the cinnamon roll started off a lot bigger. I’m sorry. I was so hungry”
She never even looked me in the eye. I nodded as I walked by the police officers and breathed a sigh of relief nothing more happened. And I even threw away my pepper spray once I got to my car.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Goals

Commit to goals ahead of time so you have no choice but to achieve them!

A short story by Flannery O’Conner has a scene where a character throws his hat over the high fence so he’ll have no choice but to climb over it as part of the story’s adventure.

I love that.
And try to replicate that in my life.

For example, this morning I put on and comfortably fastened a new pair of pants for the first time. The pants were purchased two sizes smaller than my usual waist size. Because I wanted to be sure I had no choice but to achieve my goal.

It was a great feeling of success for being so goal oriented.

Even though I bought the pants nearly 3 years ago.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Monkey Mind

Monkey Mind—according to Buddhists a term meaning “unsettled; restless; capricious; whimsical; fanciful; inconstant; confused; indecisive; uncontrollable”

For those of us who read this less as an interesting factoid and more as a diagnosis, fear not.

There are two apparently successful approaches for treating Monkey Mind.

1) Ratchet down with meditation, yoga, diet, lifestyle changes, and medication.

2) Ratchet up. Like The Stones. And become a Monkey Man.

Although the first option is preferred, there is merit to option two as well.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: A James Polk Day

Today….was a day. Where nothing happened in my life.

I didn’t work.

I didn’t rest.

I didn’t play.

I worried a little and wasted a lot of time.

I’m not even sad the day is almost over.

I don’t feel guilty.

I just feel …..well, really I don’t feel anything about today.

It was a nondescript inconsequential day.

Today was to the days of my life what James Polk was to the presidency of the United States. A president no one really remembers or ever talks about. He was probably competent enough but mostly just inconsequential in the public memory. Much like today was for me.

A James K Polk day.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Coffee Talk

What is the sound of one hand clapping? Or one person drinking coffee?

This morning I was set to have coffee with a friend at 8am but he was running behind.

Finally, at 8:15 I emailed him and told him I was going to go ahead and start the conversation without him and when he arrived he could jump in and pick up wherever we were at that time.

Fortunately, he showed up about 3 minutes later.

The conversation was off to a sluggish start by myself and seemed to jump from irrelevant topic to irrelevant topic.

Fortunately, we ended up having a great conversation.

Which just shows a conversation with 2 is much better than a conversation alone.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Blood Tests

Can’t win them all.

Last physical blood tests were “good” but with a few “slight irregularities.”

While waiting for explanation my mind raced. It was “slightly elevated cholesterol and glucose. That’s all.”

Me:”Ok . Good.”

And I added “I figured the “slight irregularity” may have been traces of Tiger Blood.”

Nurse:”Ha! No traces of Tiger Blood. Did you eat anything sweet just before the test?”

Me:”Yes. An ice cream cone.”

Nurse:”That explains glucose. If I ever worry that I need to test for Tiger Blood I’ll let you know.”

Me:”I read once that tigers like ice cream.”

Nurse: “Uh-huh. You can go now.”

Personally, I don’t even think she tested for Tiger Blood.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Car Snobbery

Subtle car snobbery.
 
It’s not what the car represents as much as what it doesn’t represent about the driver.

I drive a Honda Accord and am excited because in the next few days I’m getting a new car. Another Honda Accord (only slightly pre-owned). My car purchasing is like my restaurant purchasing. I look over the entire menu each time and order exactly the same thing.

But with the Honda Accord …I’ feel kinda proud. I think it’s a perfect combination of efficiency and practically and elegance. A good fit for me…and so while I was driving earlier today I glanced around to see if there were any cars around me I could feel a little superior to.

To my left was a Ford Fusion and I locked eyes with the driver–just briefly. But long enough for his look to say to me, “Honda Accord? Nice. But I’m a little bit better in my Ford Fusion.”

 
And he got my message back, “Ford Fusion? Not bad. But I prefer the Honda Accord and think it’s just a little bit better.”

It was a mutually respectful exchange that we both could live with. I didn’t mind letting him think he’s a little better and he didn’t mind granting me the same privilege.

But then to our right barreled forward a large shiny black Mercedes-Benz. I didn’t look at my friend in the Ford Fusion. I didn’t have to. I knew what he thinking. We both were embarrassed for the guy in a Mercedes who felt so insecure he needed something that extravagant just to be noticed and to feel like he fit in.

And we both–my Ford Fusion colleague and I— felt just little superior to the guy in the Mercedes. Not because of the statement our cars made. But because of the statement they didn’t make.

I let the Mercedes pull in front of me and speed away. But kept thinking to myself, “Poor guy. He doesn’t need a Honda Accord or Ford Fusion. He needs a hug.”

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Facebook Posts

I’ve noticed younger people on Facebook (OK, kids!) often can post a single word for a status update and add three exclamation points– and they are deluged with “likes” and comments.

How do they do that?

It must be some sort of secret young people language or maybe it’s just brevity of thought.

Oh never mind. I’m depressed now.

This is the first time ever I referred young people as “kids” and it makes me feel… it….it’s….I’m going to need some time to let this sink in before finishing this thought.

Damn!!!

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: St. Francis’ Advice

Thought for the day to change the world.

If everyone followed the section from the prayer of St Francis asking,

“Lord, grant that I may seek rather to understand, than to be understood.”

Thought for the day to change myself (as a back-up plan in case the world doesn’t change).

If I followed the section from the prayer of St Francis asking,

“Lord, grant that I may seek rather to understand, than to be understood.”

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