John Y. Brown, III

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Recovering Politician

THEN: Secretary of State (KY), 1996-2004; Candidate for Lieutenant Governor, 2007 NOW: JYB3 Group (Owner) -public affairs consulting firm; Miller Wells law firm (Of counsel) Full Biography: link

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Thank an English Teacher Day

Maybe we should have “Thank an English Teacher Day.”

English teachers have had a greater impact on my daily interactions and thought processes than teachers from any other subject matter.

Even quips and famous quotes have stayed with me longer than, say, the quadratic formula or parts of the periodic table.

“Poetry is an overflowing of emotion….reflected in tranquility”

William Wordsworth

Taught to me by my Bellarmine College English professor, Wade Hall, in 1985. Among much, much more that also is still with me after all these years.

Thank you, professor Hall. And I mean that sincerely. Not just because “I know which side of my bread the butter is on.” A phrase you used to describe me during our first classroom interaction.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Parental Sacrifice and Independence Day

Parental sacrifice and Independence Day.

Parents, like patriots, sacrifice. At our best we are role models for exemplary behavior in our children. But the other 100% of the time we are more of a mixed bag of admirable and unadmirable behavior. And the path to model parenting isn’t always obvious.

Last night I was with my wife and kids discussing some recent parental disappointments (mine mostly, of course), and I had a brilliant save.

“Ok. You all know how much we love you and try to do what we think is best, right? Well, a while back it became clear to your mom and me that we were raising you kids in ” too perfect and healthy a home environment” and it was hindering your development. You weren’t as resilient or adaptable or manipulative as other kids your age–and that had to change. So, your mother and I decided to create a slightly more dysfunctional home environment to balance your overall psychological development. And, happily for you two, it seems to be working. But it has been an incredible sacrifice on your mom and me. So, in the future when you feel your mom and me come up short as parents and aren’t doing our best, you now know why. We are doing it for your own good.

Hey, it got a laugh from the kids.

And seemed fitting for the 4th of July. In addition to celebrating our national sovereignty today, we should Declaring Independence from perfect parenting, too.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Be Yourself

Sometimes the only way to fit in is to simply be yourself.

Just went to truck stop to fill up. I notice when I’m inside a truck stop I try to act a little more manly. I stand up taller, scowl a little, and try to look like I know how to chew tobacco and operate a two way radio.

And never, ever buy a bottled Starbucks latte. And I even believe I may fool some people.

But today I walked into restroom and caught a glimpse of myself wearing a pressed button-down shirt, khaki slacks and dress shoes with tassels. I’m not sure I’m really fooling anyone after all.

I can either try harder to fit in or just accept I never will and just be myself. And buy the Starbucks latte.

John Y’s Musings From the Middle: How Social Media Could Save Your Life

How social media could save your life.

(A hypothetical situation)

If you are one of those people who believe Klout is just another vanity website and waste of time like Facebook and Twitter, think again.

And please listen to how I had to learn the hard way the true value of these websites.

One night last week I was walking alone through a dark isolated parking lot worrying I could get mugged. I clenched my fists as my fight-flight syndrome kicked in.

My pulse spiked, pupils dilated and my mind raced thinking of potential weapons I could use. I first thought of my car keys…and then, in a flash of brilliance, I had my answer, if mugged, I would immediately shout out to my assailant:

“You picked the wrong guy, pal! You will really want to rethink mugging me after hearing what I have to tell you. I have a high Klout score. That’s right. Do you know what that means? Probably not. So let me tell you. Klout is a metric that measures Facebook and Twitter usage. That means I know a lot of people on Facebook and I Tweet quite frequently. Yes, Tweet! That means I will tell on you and you will get caught through modern social media tools. And if that isn’t enough to make you quake in your boots, I’m also pretty active on LinkenIn.”

At this point I plan to eerily and ominously glare at my assailant, eyes squinted, and make the sounds “Tweet. Tweet. Tweet.” (Like the guy in the movie Warriors when he says “Warriors, come out and plaaaayyyy”)

And then I am going to add, “And by the way, my female colleague is leaving the office right after me. And btw she has a pretty low Klout score.” And then raise my eyebrow as if to say, “That’s something for you to think about.”

In my scenario, my assailant lets me go and waits for my colleague.

And Klout, Facebook and Twitter, helped save me from getting mugged. At least in this made-up hypothetical situation that ends happily ever after for everyone. Except my female colleague who I spend the next year making this up to.

Maybe now you’ll think twice before you criticize these websites again….Word.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Mythology and Life

Mythology and life.

Much of mythology is centered around the paradigm of “The hero’s journey.” (See below)

“I think people wake up to the fact that they are the hero in their life when they get tired of being a victim of it.” Robert Walker

I hope that you and I are both participating in our life’s journey.

And that we realize whatever story we may tell others, we know deep down that the we are the character expected to be the hero in our life’s journey.

If you are not the hero in your own life story, who will be?

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Babar the Elephant

So glad I don’t drink alcohol anymore.

Just drank two cups of Cuban coffees on vacation and find myself thinking “I wonder whatever happened to Babar the Elephant?”

Really. Stone cold sober.

That is not the kind of mind that needs any further lubrication. Rather it needs a blow dryer and a strong instrument to steady and focus it.

For 26 years now I have not felt compelled to act on any random thoughts about Babar the Elephant or any other imaginary animals.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Pillows

Today I was reminded that habits we start in youth seem to easily become part of us for many years without questioning.

When I was 7 my Uncle Lorn told me that it bad for my neck and back to sleep with a pillow.

41 years later I still refuse to sleep with a pillow.

When I was 8 years old a friend of the family told me he liked to eat peanuts whole –shell and all. I wanted to impress him.

40 years later I still eat peanuts with the shell.

So, I did at least two things today because a 7 year old and an 8 year old decided it was a good idea at the time. And I’ve never taken the time to question either–from the perspective of an informed adult.

Which leads to the next (and scarier) question: What else did I do this week bc my 7 or 10 or 12 year old self made a lifelong decision for me many years ago?

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Abs

“Abs”

No, not abs that I have now….or abs I’m comitting to have in the future.. I am at a point in my life where I will likely never talk about abs in the present or future tense ever again.

The best I can do is mention abs as an occurence in the past—something that existed years ago and, for a period of time, I was proud of. A reflection. A reminescence of something positive t can still recall and remind people about–form once upon a time, A sweet memory.

And one more thing.

What was it? Oh yeah!

“Brains”

John Y.’s Musings from the Middle: College Tuition

Right of Passage or reason for passing out?

We just received our first child’s first college tuition bill.

It’s a proud moment, to be sure. I smiled inwardly as I knelt down on the ground to steady myself and decided to stay down until the faint feeling and nausea subsided.

It’s a feeling I won’t ever forget. Mixed with great parental pride was the initial thought that passed through my head like a loud chugging locomotive that could be heard over a mile away, “We’re going to have to sell the house!”

Of course, I caught myself up, chuckled, and reminded myself of an age-old trick that always helped in situations like this, “Let it sink in before reacting” and then I knelt back down into a sitting position as the faint feeling and nausea came rushing back.

So, I waited several minutes. In fact about 30 minutes and decided to reflect calmly on this momentous occasion. My second–calmer and more reflective reaction–was we need to sell the house and I’m going to have to pick up a second job delivering pizzas for the next 4 years.

Phew!! Feeling much better now.

John Y’s Musings from the Middle: Movie Etiquette (UPDATED w/Comments)

Movie etiquette.

When your beloved wife rents a movie for you to watch together and says, “I got this movie because the couple reminds me of us” be prepared.
1) Do not criticize the wife’s character

2) Praise the wife’s character

3) Accept that the “similarities” you have with thehusband’s character will be, shall we say, traits you possess that provide “opportunities for improvement.”

4) The “movie” you are about to watch is really more of a “training film.”

5) Tomorrow night is NOT your turn to pick out a movie.

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UPDATE.  (Comments)

THE RP: John, you need to be a little more subtle in the description. It is obvious that the movie is Shrek. And I’m Donkey

REBECCA BROWN (Mrs. JYB3): Jonathan, Shrek was a slow learner but once he got the hang of what to do, he had a real knack for making Fiona feel special and loved in the end….also, it is hard to be critical of Fiona after that locked up in a castle as an ogre issue…..another great movie for us!

JOHN Y: I had no idea Shrek was about relationships. I just thought it was a funny movie about Ogres. I need the Cliff Notes.

REBECCA:…As for Fiona’s characterization, I think she used the locked up in a castle card for sympathy too much and also could have made fun of herself more to draw the donkey and Shrek into feeling more comfortable around her right off the bat. Instead, they felt they had to show that they felt sorry for her and it set the next few scenes up for constant tension. I don’t think I have ever given this much thought to a Disney movie…thanks Jonathan!

THE RP: To be honest, Rebecca, I think I fell asleep when I watched Shrek with the girls. I was just making the surface comment that John looks like Shrek, you look like Fiona, and I look like Donkey.

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